The 4 Agreements Every Dancer Needs to Transform Limiting Beliefs and Radiate Confidence In Your Movement
Dance is an art of boundless expression, a physical symphony of movement. In the realm of pole and aerial dance, the artistry of movement is coupled with the power and grace of acrobatics, creating a unique platform for self-discovery and personal transformation. For women navigating these disciplines, the encounter with one's physical and emotional limits is a profound part of the self-love and empowerment journey.
Just as a dancer's strength and agility are honed with practice, the mind also requires training to achieve the fluidity and freedom that every dancer desires. This post is dedicated to women of pole and aerial fitness, whether seasoned dancers or those anxiously eying the pole for the first time. We'll explore how the practice of these Agreements' can uplift the dance experience and elevate your aerial prowess.
Understanding Limiting Beliefs in Dance
Before we can ascend to new heights in our self-expression, it's crucial to recognize the invisible barriers that hold us back. Limiting beliefs, often deeply ingrained, are those quiet whisperings that suggest we are not good enough, not strong enough, or fear that we will fail. In pole fitness and aerial dance, these beliefs can be particularly insidious, manifesting as doubts about one's ability to perform a tricky move or unease about appearing less graceful than a fellow dancer.
Examples of Limiting Beliefs in Dance:
"I don't have the upper body strength to execute that move."
"I'm not flexible enough for aerial silks routines."
"I don't have a dancer's body, so I'll never succeed in this."
The Four Agreements
In the bestselling book 'The Four Agreements' by Don Miguel Ruiz, the author presents a code for a life of freedom and true happiness.
1. Be impeccable with your word.
Watch what you say, especially to yourself. Refrain from belittling or self-criticizing talk.
2. Don't take anything personally.
Realize that others' opinions do not define you. Instead, focus on your personal growth and progress.
3. Don't make assumptions.
Communicate clearly and don't assume the worst. Seek guidance when unsure.
4. Always do your best.
Recognize that your best will vary from day to day. Show up and give your all without comparison.
How To Apply This To Your Pole + Aerial Dance Practice
These agreements aren't just lofty ideals; they provide potent tools for building resilience and a supportive internal dialogue. Here's how to put them into action in your dance practice.
Be Impeccable with Your Practice
The way you speak about your practice, both inwardly and to others, creates your reality. Instead of framing difficult moves as "I can't do this," say "I'm working on this challenging move, and I know I'll get it with practice."
Don't Take Setbacks Personally
When you struggle with a routine or don’t nail a performance, view it as part of the learning process rather than a reflection of your worth as a dancer. Everyone's dance journey includes missteps—sometimes literally.
Avoid Making Assumptions About Your Abilities
Don’t assume that you'll never accomplish a certain move. Speak with your instructors, break down the move, and take small, achievable steps to get there.
Consistently Bring Your Best
Your “best” each day can look very different, and that’s okay. Whether you’re dealing with fatigue or performing at your peak, the key is to consistently show up and put in the effort. Over time, your best will serve as a benchmark for your progress.
Real-Life Success Stories
To further illustrate the power of the Agreements in dance, we explore the stories of women who have transformed their self-doubt into confidence and their fear into freedom.
Kristen's Journey from Silent Spectator to Aerial Acrobat
Kristen was initially drawn to poles and silks with a mix of fascination and fear. Her first few classes were a struggle, with her inner dialogue undermining her every move. Through the practice of the Agreements, Kristen gradually found her voice in celebrating small victories, she abandoned assumptions about her limitations, and with self-compassion, her strength on the pole grew. She now embraces every wobble and setback as an opportunity to learn and grow.
Adriana's Shift from Comparison to Community
Adriana often found herself making unfair comparisons with other dancers, which left her feeling demotivated. Upon adopting the principle of 'not taking anything personally', she began to see critiques and performances as part of her group's collective improvement, fostering a supportive and encouraging community.
Conclusion
The dance floor, whether a studio, a stage, or the expanse of air between ceiling and floor, is an arena for personal transformation. By weaving the Four Agreements into the fabric of your dance practice, you can banish limiting beliefs and find a deep well of strength, artistry, and self-expression.
Here’s your chance to turn your pole or aerial session into a self-love odyssey. Dance by these agreements, sign up for a class today, and share your transformation with the world.
